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Get used to it?
Aug. 6th, 2010 02:15 pmA side effect of me liking myself and my life better is that I'm getting sassy again.
I'm having a hard time dumbing myself down. And a hard time being demure.
I remember at my previous job, Lars had commented that people didn't like it when I said things like they were a fact and that I knew them. Regardless of if what I said was an actual fact that I knew. So I started prefacing my sentences (both out loud and via email) with "I think..." rather than stating facts. And people like me more now. (Or something)
But every once in a while, lately, I've been wondering if that is treated differently for boys versus girls. If a man states something as a fact, do people like him less? Do they prefer the option of a woman only possibly being correct to one of a woman knowing she is correct?
I don't know.
I also hold doors open. This seems to be a conflict with some men. (Maybe some women, but I couldn't tell you the last time I saw a woman wait for a man to hold the door open for her when she wasn't old or encumbered with things she was carrying.)
My coworker D and I once walked up to our building door at the same time. I got to the door just a little bit quicker and held the door open for him. He refused to walk through. I've done this previously with other male coworkers and they may have hesitated slightly, but all have walked through the door. Not D.
My boss, some coworkers and I went out to lunch today. I was the only girl. I had gotten to the door first and held it open for them all. All but one of the new Polish programmers walked through without hesitation. ZB hesitated quite a bit and finally just walked through with a comment about ladies. My re-found sassiness stated "You're in America. You'll have to get used to it." Maybe I shouldn't have said that but... *shrug*
I'm sure in the very near future I will be shoving both feet in my mouth when my sassiness gets out more. It'll be the deterioration of the brain-to-mouth filter that gets me. I can see it already.
I'm having a hard time dumbing myself down. And a hard time being demure.
I remember at my previous job, Lars had commented that people didn't like it when I said things like they were a fact and that I knew them. Regardless of if what I said was an actual fact that I knew. So I started prefacing my sentences (both out loud and via email) with "I think..." rather than stating facts. And people like me more now. (Or something)
But every once in a while, lately, I've been wondering if that is treated differently for boys versus girls. If a man states something as a fact, do people like him less? Do they prefer the option of a woman only possibly being correct to one of a woman knowing she is correct?
I don't know.
I also hold doors open. This seems to be a conflict with some men. (Maybe some women, but I couldn't tell you the last time I saw a woman wait for a man to hold the door open for her when she wasn't old or encumbered with things she was carrying.)
My coworker D and I once walked up to our building door at the same time. I got to the door just a little bit quicker and held the door open for him. He refused to walk through. I've done this previously with other male coworkers and they may have hesitated slightly, but all have walked through the door. Not D.
My boss, some coworkers and I went out to lunch today. I was the only girl. I had gotten to the door first and held it open for them all. All but one of the new Polish programmers walked through without hesitation. ZB hesitated quite a bit and finally just walked through with a comment about ladies. My re-found sassiness stated "You're in America. You'll have to get used to it." Maybe I shouldn't have said that but... *shrug*
I'm sure in the very near future I will be shoving both feet in my mouth when my sassiness gets out more. It'll be the deterioration of the brain-to-mouth filter that gets me. I can see it already.
